Why I Keep My Facebook Public

I generally keep most of my Facebook statuses public. Periodically, something happens that makes me consider changing that. Usually, it’s when some random person I don’t know decides to take offense at something I shared without actually reading the article or knowing why I shared it. I always make the decision to stay public. Here are my reasons why:

1. The only time anyone reads this ridiculous blog is when it posts to Facebook.   If I’m going to insist on writing stupid stuff on occasion, I would like to get a few hits. The only way that happens is if a lot of people see it on Facebook. Keeping it public allows for the possibility of new people reading it.

2. I enjoy seeing random people who are friends of friends liking my posts on Facebook. It is a narcissism thing, I know, but I like to see that my posts are reaching people outside of my circle of friends.

3. I don’t post things I wouldn’t want my boss, mom or pastor(all friends on Facebook) to see. I admit that I do share some articles, mainly by Drew Magary, that have profanity, but I have issues several warnings about those. Besides those, most of my posts are random innocuous thoughts from the weird place that is my head and boring posts about what I’m doing. No reason to hide that.

4. Along those same lines, it makes me thinks about what I post. If I have filters and assume they are working I might feel comfortable posting in anger something I will regret. If I know the whole world could see it it makes me thinks about what I’m about to say. 

5. Last, and most important, I think I’m hilarious and that the world should not be deprived of my humor. Everyone should get a chance to read my posts. Why should my friends be the only ones who get to enjoy the awesome and hilarious Tater?

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You Like Me Better Online

Actually, it’s more likely that you don’t like me at all, but if you like me at all, you probably like the online me more. I’m much better in a non face to face interaction. I’m also much better inside my own head(it’s a scary place). This blog post sounded much better in my head than it will ever sound in print and will be much better in print than it would ever be in person. Unless I know you well, I will struggle to do something as simple as engage in small talk. I’m horrible at parties and will usually be found in a corner somewhere avoiding the potential small talk opportunities. Online I can talk to strangers, make jokes, engage in lively discussion about a variety of topics and be the type of person some people might actually like. In person, I still suffer from the same self-esteem driven shyness that I suffered from in high school. It’s a little better these days, but I still feel awkward in a lot of social situations. This also carries over to work related things as well. I go to conferences and then can’t bring myself to do the “networking” expected of conference attendees. I’m horrible in job interviews. I don’t like to speak in trainings and meetings unless I have to, even though I have a lot of valuable input(I am a genius after all). I know there is a lot to dislike about the Internet, but it has been a great thing for people like me. I’m much better when you can’t see me(and it’s better for your eyes).

Facebook…..Again

I have recently been contemplating seriously reducing the number of “friends” I have on Facebook and setting my updates as friends only. This seemed like a good way not to worry about people being upset about what I post. Then I think “It’s my Facebook. I can post whatever I want and if they don’t like it they can unfriend me”. It’s not like I haven’t been unfriended by numerous people over the years for a variety of reasons. It’s not like being unfriended by most of the people on Facebook would really matter that much to me. This line of thinking makes me wonder if I feel this way, why do I even stay on Facebook? Honest answer – because it is the only place where people see and respond to my ridiculous thoughts and rambling blog posts. Also, because I really do enjoy seeing the photos and status updates of friends and family who live far away, but I will admit that the vanity part is stronger. How else would the 12 readers of my blog know when I post? How else will I know people appreciate my humor. Real life? Not likely. I’m much funnier online. So, I am staying on Facebook and staying public. If you are someone who would rather not read what I post, do us both a favor and unfriend me now. I think we will both survive.