Changing Goals

More on the topic of goals today. I was asked yesterday about goals and specifically asked if a certain job was my goal. It would have served me in the short term to just say yes, that is my career goal. Did I do that? Of course not. My problem over the years is that I am apparently unable to play the game that needs to be played to get ahead. The thing to do there was to say yes, my career goal is to be X, please hire me to do X. And yes, that is a current career goal. I would like to do X. I would be good at X. I don’t think there should be any question that I would be good at X. But is that my end goal? I really don’t know. Maybe. Maybe I get hired to do X and I’m very happy doing X and I want to do X for the rest of my work life. But the thing is, goals change. Life changes.

Maybe my wife gets a new job and we have to move. Doesn’t matter what my career goal was, now my career goal is to find a decent job in the new location. Maybe I win the lottery. Nw my career goal is to quit in a way that will not alert people that I won the lottery. Maybe I’m so good at my job I’m offered the chance to move to a higher level job and it is something that excites me. Now my career goal has moved up the ladder. Maybe I get a notification that a job I didn’t even know existed is open and it is the perfect situation for me. It would be hard to have that goal if I didn’t even know it could be a goal.

So, I guess my goal is to stay aware of opportunities, take chances and go for those opportunities when they arise and to know which opportunity is the right one for me.


Goal Check-In

I was asked again today about career goals. I said again that sometimes it is hard to have a career goal when my goal might be to have a job that is not open or to have a job that they won’t hire me to do. I thought about posting a big thing about goals and how they can change. Then, I remembered I posted last month about goals for the year. Since I have control over these goals whereas I have little control over someone hiring me to a job that might fulfill my career goals, I decided to check in to see how I’m doing. Let’s see…

This one is an actual goal – My usual read 100 books goal. I’ve been able to get to 100 every year so far, but just barely. I would like to read more and look at my phone less this year and make the 100 with time to spare. I would also like to read more authors I’ve not read before and take the time to go back and read older books I missed when they were released.

I’m a little behind on the number, but I’m not worried about that. I have time to catch up. I’m doing good on reading new authors by reading books that won awards at ALA Midwinter. That, combined with my book club book means it has been a bit since I’ve read a book by my regular authors.

I would like to spend less time sitting at home on the couch and more time out of the house doing stuff. I don’t really care what I’m doing. It could be a movie. It could just be dinner out. It could be spending more time exploring DC and Baltimore. We’ve gotten in the bad habit of spending most of our non-work hours sitting at home in front of the TV. I like TV, but I need more.

Doing OK with this one.  We did go out to eat on a Monday night, but only because we had a deal we needed to use. I did go out last week for a free birthday entrée and we went to DC for my birthday lunch and walked around a little bit. I feel like I have a better chance to do this when the weather is better. I do still need to go see more movies.

To go along with the above, I would like to spend more time outside. It rained a lot last year and because of that, I spent a lot of time inside. I need to take more walks, hike, sit on the deck and read when the weather is nice. Just be outside.

I made sure to eat outside on the days it got warm recently. We went to Orlando last month and I spent a lot of time outside. I’ve walked the dog. I want to do more of this when it gets warmer. To go along with the above, I want to do more fun day trips on days off instead of sitting at home.

Find some way to not dread leaving the house in the morning. I think some of the above sitting on the couch comes from the fact that I don’t have a day-to-day life that makes me happy to leave the house in the morning. My days can be mentally and emotionally draining and that leads to wanting to go home and hide from the world. Whatever it takes, I need to find something that makes me not dread going to work in the morning.

Still a work in progress. I will know soon if more drastic changes are needed.

I want to figure out if I should try to write something besides a blog post I can write in 15 minutes or less. Do I have what it takes to do more long-form writing? Do I want to do that? Do I want to write content that takes research and time? Do people want to read that here? Do I want to consider moving from a paid WordPress site to a self-hosted site? Will any of this really matter on a blog that is lucky to get 20 views a day?

So far, I’ve been doing just more of the same. I still haven’t decided if I should go self-hosted. I’ve thought more recently about trying to write something more substantial than a blog post. I just don’t know where to start or what I should write, Maybe it will come to me soon.

I would like to make the time to do a couple more short trips to Kentucky to see my family even if it means taking a long weekend and driving a lot in a few days to do so.

Not yet, but I should look at the calendar and figure something out. Maybe I should go for the NFL draft in Nashville next month.

Whenever my friends from high school plan the 50th birthday celebration for the class this year I want to do what it takes to get there even if that again means two days of driving for one day there.

Still no word yet. Maybe they have a plan and just don’t plan to tell me.

So, I would say this is a decent start. Once the weather is better I can work more on doing more than sitting on the couch.  I need to plan a trip to Kentucky and convince my high school friends to tell me the plan for a get together this year. I will go see Captain Marvel and Avengers in the next couple of months. I will check back in in a few months to see if I’ve kept up with my goals.

A Collection of Short Tater Thoughts

I have no topic for a long form post today. The following are random short thought that will hopefully pop in my head while I am writing.

Hello Guvna: The Governor of Maryland will be at my old branch today. A delegation from his office will be at my current branch today. The Governor will not join them. I’m sure that I am missing out on my shot by not getting face time with Governor Hogan. I’m sure he would hire me on the spot.

Driving: I could write about this every day. My latest traffic complaint is that yesterday I was driving on a highway with 55 MPH speed limit. I will admit that I was speeding(70 in a 55) and still someone comes up behind me a rides my bumper because they wanted to go even faster. That is just a guarantee that I will start to drive much slower. Yes, I’m that driver.

Reading Slump: I don’t hate the book I’m reading, but I don’t really feel the need to read it when I have free time. I guess I should take a break from it and read something else to see if reading in general is the problem or if it is the book. It’s hard for me to take a break from a book if I plan to finish it.  I’m good with quitting a book I hate, but I find it hard to take a break or quit a book that is just mediocre.

Goals: I’ve written here several times about not knowing what I want to be when I grow up Our new CEO plans to meet with each of us to ask what we do, but also what we want to do in our job. I guess I need to figure that out soon so I have an answer. I’m not sure “retire” is the answer she wants. Maybe I will tell her I want her job.

Blogging: I will end with more blog talk. I am going to set a goal to be more organized with my blog. Right now, I just get my laptop and write whatever pops in my head that morning. I rarely plan ahead. This is fine for what I want as far as the writing goes, but it leads to long stretches of not posting because my mind is blank. I want to start doing more planning on what I will write. I want to be better about writing down topics and rants as they pop in my head. I have no idea what will work for me, but I hope it will at least lead to fewer long breaks from posting. Any suggestions appreciated.


Happy Birthday to Me

As I started thinking about what to write in my very narcissistic post wishing myself a happy birthday some lyrics from a new Ryan Hamilton & the Traitors song popped in to my head: I’m still not clean, and I’m not sober, I’m just a little bit smarter and a whole lot older” While I am clean and I am sober(usually) I am pretty smart and I am a whole lot older. 

A lot has happened since my last birthday. I changed jobs, leaving the place I had worked for 15 years. I lost my mom. I went to California and went para sailing and lived to tell about it. The United States lost its mind and elected Donald Trump as president. Only two  of those things listed(I said a lot and listed a few. Maybe I’m not so smart) are a  positive and one of the positives(the new job) had some negatives(leaving friends). Hopefully, this upcoming year will be one where the positives outweigh the negatives.

It’s hard to believe that it’s now been 30 years since I turned 18. My 30 year high school reunion is this summer. How did that happen? I don’t feel like I could be 48. Sure, I’m tired more now. I go to bed earlier and wake up earlier. I spend a lot more time at home and hardly any time at all “out on the town.” But I don’t feel old. I just feel boring. Maybe in my case they are the same thing. Maybe I should work on that.

I am inching closer and closer to an empty nest, 50 years old and soon after, retirement. I hope I am inching closer and closer to being a 50 year old empty nester/retiree who spends his time doing fun, active things and not one that watches a lot of TV alone. So, my goal as a 48 year old is to be a 48 year old who does more fun things out of the house. My goal is to be a 48 year old who makes the effort to see his friends he left at his old branch so they remain his friends(if y’all are reading this let’s have coffee/drinks sometime). My goal is to be a 48 year old who is an inspiration and not a cautionary tale. But, my immediate goal for my 4 day weekend(thank you HCLS for birthday leave!) is to eat a lot of free food I got for signing up for restaurant email lists.


Day 29: Goooooal!

Day 29 wants me to wrote my goals for the next thirty days. I guess this means I need to make goals for the next thirty days? I’m not really a goal setting person. That might explain why I am a fat, out of shape man who has been in the same job for the past 20 years. Hmm. Maybe I should have thought about setting goals 20 years ago. My goals:

  1. Take my birthday leave on a day when the library is actually open and not closed for snow. This is really out of my control. I can’t change the weather. I’m only responsible for the black cloud that is always over me.
  2. Eat all of the free food I get for my birthday because I signed up for email alerts from restaurants. That will contribute to the fatness, but why change now.
  3. Read enough books to stay on track for my goal of 100 books read this year.
  4. Get people to sign up for my adult recess event at the library.
  5. Get people to come to the parent & teen book club at the library.
  6. Stop eating the candy that is ever present at work. I actually started this goal last week. So far I have been successful. This is just the candy. I will still eat donuts, cake, etc if offered. I’m not stupid.
  7. Post on the blog at least twice a week after the writing challenge is over. I would say every day, but do people really need that? I think not.
  8. Go see a movie at the theater. I love going to the movies, but never go. If I achieve goal #1 I will do it on that day.
  9. World domination.

Check back on 3/ 10 to see if I was able to accomplish any of these.