If I did it right, this will post again with the edit at the top. If I didn’t do it right you won’t see this. I eat outside every day at work. I sit in front of the building at the tables if it is cool, in the shade near the side doors if it is hot. I read my book while I eat. Many times it is difficult to concentrate because people are outside talking loudly on their phones. People walk into the library while talking. Why does everyone talk so much?
I really don’t understand why so many people are always talking on their cell phone. I spend a lot of time on my phone, but I’m looking at Facebook, Twitter, email, etc and if I’m talking to someone(a very rare occurrence) it is via text, email or Facebook Messenger. I also feel the need to spend less time doing this. Facebook and Twitter are generally either boring or irritating, I don’t get any fun emails and no one texts me. Why am I spending time on the phone? It’s an addiction. I think I should sue Apple. (see my post on Apple Addiction here). One thing I rarely do is actually talk on the phone.
I didn’t even like talking on the phone when talking was the only thing you could do on the phone. Any of my friends and family who have ever talked to me on the phone can verify that I am really bad at talking on the phone. Why would I want to do that now when there are other options(in this scenario I am pretending I know people who actually want to talk to me). I would rather text, email, etc than talk on the phone. I don’t understand why so many other people are always talking on the phone. Who are they talking to? How can they have that much to say? Why is it so important that they talk no matter where they are?
I drive to work and when I pass slow and erratic drivers I glance over the many of them are slow and erratic because they are on their phone. People in line at Starbucks barely move their mouths away from the phone to mumble their order and then go back to the conversation and miss the person asking them a question and take forever to pay because it might interrupt their phone call. People in the library are always getting phone calls and then talking very loudly on their phones. Phones ring during church services, movies, etc. Who are they talking to all the time? Have they never heard of texting? I just don’t get it.
It’s another edition of Tater After Dark! Very exciting! The title of this one is misleading, but I couldn’t come up with anything better for the post topic.
On a show I was watching recently someone asked for advice on how to get the trust of a group of people. The advice was to find the person who is the “glue’ and get their trust and the rest will follow. I thought the writers are wrong about who the glue is on the show, but that’s another post. It is good advice though and I’ve seen it in action several times.
When I started working at the jail there were officers who were slow to warm up to me as the new librarian. I don’t know why. I have such a sparkling personality. It’s a mystery, but it happened. Some didn’t seem to like me at all. Some were just indifferent. It stayed that way for a while, but then one day one of the officers from that group must have been bored and came in to the library to talk to me. They then started doing that more often. Soon, most of the officers seemed to warm up to me. It might have just been that I had been there long enough that they accepted me, but I think what really did it was the right person from the group deciding I was OK.
I saw it in the jail with inmates. One very obvious case: there was an inmate who was constantly asking legal questions and then arguing with me about the answers. He thought he was smarter than me and was very difficult to deal with. A new inmate moved in to his cell block and started coming to the library. He discovered I was a big sports fan and would talk to me a lot about sports when he was in the library. Soon after, the jailhouse lawyer guy was not as difficult and soon stopped coming to the library. I think in this case the new guy was obviously had some sort of power in the ranks of the inmates and the other guy didn’t want to cross him by bothering the librarian he chatted with regularly. I didn’t question it. I just enjoyed the quiet.
I’ve seen groups of friends with an obvious “leader” where new people had no chance of being liked and accepted by the group if the leader does not like them. Members of the group risk being out if they cross the leader. It seems the advice on the show was good advice. A group is more likely to accept you if you are accepted by their leader.
Do you see this in your life? At work? With your friends? Is it just me?