Friday’s Random Tater Thoughts

In an effort to avoid doing something productive on my day off , but with no one topic I want to address, I bring you another random collection of Tater Thoughts. I know you are excited.

Powerball:  Unfortunately, I did not win the Powerball this week. This means I have to continue trying to be a productive member of society with a job and stuff. I do have a plan if I ever win, though. I wouldn’t quit my job right away. That would be too suspicious and people might figure out I’m rich and want money. I would keep working for a little while and then one day overreact to something, go on an epic rant about everything that has ever annoyed me over the past 20 years and storm out. Of course, now that I’ve posted this everyone will know if I do this then I have become wealthy. Time to come up with a new plan.

Weather: I know that 70 degree weather in February should be a reminder that global warming is real and a serious problem, but I can’t help being very happy about it. The older I get the more I hate the cold and the snow.. I would happily move somewhere where 70 degree February is the norm, but I also don’t want extremely hot summers. I fear, though, that I will be in Maryland forever.

Political Stuff: This week the Trump administration ended the Obama guidance that schools should allow transgender students to use the restroom that aligns with their gender identity.  A good portion of the people out there who agree with this move somehow believe the untrue assertions that this will reduce the rapes that have or will occur if transgender students are given the right to use the restroom they want. I have yet to see any reports of any rape stemming from these policies. Many people also applaud the move because they hate, fear or don’t understand the transgender community. What you need to understand is that other people’s’ rights should not depend upon your personal feelings, your religious beliefs or, really, anything to do with you.

Civility: Lastly, let’s talk about civility. This election season and the first month of the Trump administration has been marked by a lot of harsh words, insults, etc. I know that people are angry about the election and about most of what the Trump administration stands for. I know people on the other side feel empowered by the win and think the rest of us should just shut up already. Passion about your beliefs is great and I’m all for protests, calls to Congress, posts on social media, etc to make your voice heard. I will continue to post when I have something to say about political issues. I hope my friends continue to post their thoughts as well, from both sides of the issues. What I would like to see less of is –

posts from incendiary/slanted news sites(Infowars, Breitbart, Occupy Democrats) designed to make people mad instead of inform

name calling. you can get your point across better and get people to listen more with reasoned debate without insults.

dismissive comments – if you just tell me to shut up and deal with it, call me butthurt, sheep, etc I will stop caring what you think. This does not help at all. feel free to disagree, but disagree with facts and debate, not this stuff.

hate – this one most of all. Way too many people out there saying Muslims don’t belong in our “Christian country” that people in the LGBTQ community are mentally ill, unnatural, etc and don’t deserve to be treated equally. Too many reports of racist and anti-Semitic violence and vandalism. Too many attacks on people who aren’t like you. Please stop. You say we are a Christian country, but then you act like the complete opposite of a Christian.

Disagreement is good, but we will get nowhere if we can’t learn to disagree and debate civilly

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The Little Things

Recently at church part of the message talked about holding the door for people. I recently saw a Facebook post where someone shared a list of things they were going to do and one was “hold the door for strangers” I’m not writing this to brag(though I am pretty awesome), but I have always held the door open for people. All people. Men, women, young, old, friend, stranger. When did we become the type of world where such a little thing becomes something that needs a reminder? Did we stop because people stopped saying thank you? Are we only being nice for the acknowledgement? Did we stop because we thought people would be offended b the idea that they couldn’t open the door for themselves? Is anyone out there reading this offended when someone holds the door for them?  I know it is a little thing, but little things matter. You never know when a little thing can have a big impact on someone. Here are some little things I can think of that can make the world just a little better. Add some of your own in the comments.

If able, hold the door for strangers.

Before snapping your order at them, say good morning to your barista and remember to thank them.

Pay for the next person’s order in the drive through.

Smile at people you pass on the street. Say hello.

If you are in school, sit with someone who eats lunch alone.

If able, give your seat on the train to someone who might need it.

Be nicer on the roads. Give people room to merge. Wave a thank you to those who let you do the same.

Maybe once we get in the habit of doing the little things it will lead to some bigger and better things.

 

 

Reflections on the late…everybody.

Before I get into my rant about people being late, I should point out that I am someone who thinks that being on time actually means being a few minutes early. I consider right on time late and late as unacceptable. I don’t expect others to be like me, but I do expect an effort to be on time.

Working the 1-9 shift on Mondays means that I get the task of waiting at home for various service people when needed. I have had several times recently when these service people did not show up within the window they promised. I understand that there are circumstances that might make them late. The first guy had an early job that ran long. The second guy got stuck in traffic. The third guy gave no excuse, but I am willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he had an early job run long. What drives me crazy is that they don’t feel the need to call if they are going to be late. The first guy never called. After he was several hours past the window, I finally got someone at the office to contact him to find out if he was still coming, He was. He just didn’t feel the need to call. The second guy did call…after he was already late. The third guy was not late enough to warrant a call, but was late nonetheless. I guess they think I have nothing better to do but sit at home waiting for them to arrive.

It’s not just service calls, though. It is everyone, everywhere. People show up for movies after the movie has started and disrupt other people’s ability to watch the movie while looking for seats for their group of 10 people who have to sit together. Want to sit together? Show up on time. People arrive late to things like dance recitals, school concerts, church, etc. and instead of standing/sitting in the back they feel the need to walk in front of everyone to try to get a seat in the front. Again, want a good seat? Show up on time.

People don’t make schedules just for the fun of it. Things start at a certain time for a reason and should be expected to start on time. These times are not a suggestion. I know there are times when being late is unavoidable. We’ve all hit that traffic day when it takes hours to go a mile. Some people use mass transit and trains are delayed. That can explain some of the lateness to some things, but not all of it. Many people these days just don’t feel like it is important for them to show up on time and have no trouble making others late or disrupting an event and it drives me crazy.

Bureau of Jerks

My daughter’s third grade class arranged a field trip to the Bureau of Engraving and Printing in DC for today.  We were scheduled to go in as two groups starting at 10:15.  Because DC traffic sucks(due in part to horribly timed traffic lights) we arrived a few minutes late for the first tour.  The lovely people at the bureau informed the teacher that due to our lateness, they could not accommodate the entire group.  When they were asked if we could send the kids in with the teachers and leave the parents out, they refused.  A parent who is a local DC police officer(and who arranged the trip) talked to everyone he could and they still refused to let all of the kids in to the tour.  My daughter’s class got to go in since our parent arranged the trip and were faced with a very rude and angry security person as they were screened.  She constantly yelled at the kids and the parents and did not seem to realize that 8 year olds don’t have a lot of experience with government security requirements.  What a lovely introduction to the United States Government these kids received. Great job representing our county!

On the other hand, the people at the Capitol(the second stop on the tour) were very nice and very good with the kids.  Maybe the Engraving a Printing people need to take a class with the Capitol police on how to deal with visitors in a civil manner.

There are people in your internet

Passing along this post I found on FriendFeed.

http://blogs.squidoo.com/squidblog/?p=276#

One of the things I have always hated about the Internet is the way people use the anonymity to be meaner and more negative in their interactions with others. Social networking turns into anti-social networking quickly. Trolls abound on message boards and blogs. This election season has been particularly bad with everyone picking their “team” and treating everyone on the other side poorly. Everyone needs to do as the blog above says and remember that there are people on the other side of those words on the internet.