I have written about this before. It has reared its ugly head again.
I don’t use my real name on the blog. I have a Facebook page for Tater. The Tater page was not started for the blog. It started as a joke and then was the place I sometimes posted things I didn’t think were fit for public posting(back when I cared about offending people) I thought Tater would be a good way to separate some of my postings from the real me. The problem? It wasn’t just my closest friends who liked the page. My boss at the time liked the page pretty early on in the process. Others I would have rather kept separate also liked the page. There was no anonymity. I didn’t really make an effort to keep it anonymous. I just didn’t expect certain people to like the page.
The blog is much the same. When I first started writing more often WordPress would allow you to set a blog to post automatically to your personal Facebook, so I did. I didn’t keep the blog a secret. I wanted people to read it and in the beginning, the only people reading were the people who saw it on my Facebook. When the rules changed and you could only have posts go automatically to a page, it seemed obvious to make the move to the Tater page. My numbers have shifted dramatically over the past few years. More and more of my views are coming from people who follow me on WordPress. I still get a few views from social media but many of the people who know me in real life no longer read the posts. Some do, though, and I can’t be completely sure who they are unless they like or comment on the post.
This is a problem on days like today. I have two things I would like to write about. Both of these things cast someone I know in real life in a bad light. It’s possible they read the blog. I’m not sure they would know one of them is about them, but one would be about a specific incident and they would definitely know they are in the story, They deserve to be viewed negatively for their part in the story, but I don’t want to deal with the possibility of them or one of their friends reading it and the possible backlash. I shouldn’t worry about it. I have not seen them in person in years. They never engage with me on social media. There is no indication they even remember I exist. Even if they were mad, why would I care? Still, I hesitate. Others would also know who I was talking about. I just don’t feel right about a negative post when so many people would know who the villain in the story is.
So, those two posts will never be written unless I establish another blog that people n my real life don’t know about.
Is your blog anonymous enough that this is not a worry for you? Do your friends and family read your blog? Does it change what and how you write?