We were watching the new version of Magnum PI this week and it is leaning closer and closer to the possibility of a romance between Magnum and Higgins. I was watching the show B Positive with my son, but we are very behind. I have seen some mention on the TV sites I follow that they are moving toward a romance between the two leads instead of sticking to a friendship. Television, for the most part, does not seem to think a man and a woman can just be friends. One of the things I enjoy about the show All Rise is that it features a close, platonic friendship between a a man and a woman. The judge and the Deputy District Attorney are long time friends and talk every day about their lives. Lola is married. Mark i in a relationship. There is no indication of romance, past or present. I hope they don’t ruin it and it stays that way. I hate that TV consistently pushes the idea that a man and woman can’t be friends and/or work closely together without developing a romantic relationship.
I’m sure it started before When Harry Met Sally, but that is the big one I remember in the “Can men and women be just friends?” area. Harry and Sally are friends for years and eventually admit they are in love with each other. It does happen. My wife and I were in the same friend group before we were dating. I’ve written before about how my first love was a friend in high school. I never told them how I felt because I didn’t want to ruin the friendship. I’ve also written about how I have always had several female friends. Most of my closer friends have always been women. I’m 100% certain that none of them have secretly been in love with me. A bad thing in high school, but a good thing as an adult. I have been close friends with women. I have worked in places where I was one of the few men in the workplace. I worked closely with women and did not fall in love with them and they did not fall in love with me. I’m sure many other people have had that experience.
Why is it that TV and movies can’t seem to show this as a possibility? Do they think the “will they, won’t they” dynamic makes a show better? Do they think fan will revolt if they ship a couple and they remain friends? Am I wrong and men and women really can’t be just friends? Is every woman secretly in love with me? Am I secretly in love with every woman I know?
Enquiring minds want to know